Knowing your value in the midst of your circumstances

It can be hard to feel valuable when you are constantly messing up. When you fail, you feel as if something is wrong with you. You beat yourself up, and begin to live in a place of defeat.

When people do not know their value, they begin to settle for less. 

Settling in places such as a job, romance, friendships, beliefs, and so on.

Growing up, I had social anxiety. The only people I was comfortable talking to were the really nice people, that would go out of their way to talk to me. I didn’t feel worthy, I felt as if I had nothing to say or to bring to the table. 

Things began to change for me when I wanted more out of life. I wanted to make a difference, and my heart was to encourage people, in order to do that I would need to be okay with getting over what others thought about me. I started ministry school when I was about 23, and in ministry school they would encourage us to pray for strangers. At first it was so hard for me to have to go up to a stranger and ask them how I could pray for them but then, over time, it got easier.

Whatever you are going through, whether its at work or a relationship and you just don’t feel worthy, I encourage you to go deep into your heart and ask yourself these questions…

Who told me that I am not worthy?

Why am I choosing to believe this?

Do I believe I am here on earth for a purpose?

I want you to know that you are valuable, and that as long as you are alive, God has a great purpose for your life. You weren’t created just to be here, every part of you was carefully created by an amazing God in heaven who sees your value.

You are loved beyond measure; the one that created you sees your value, and He says to you, “My Child do you not see your worth? For I am your creator! I see you far more precious than rubies.”

1 John 3:1“Behold what manner of love the Father has bestowed on us, that we should be called children of God!” 

Proverbs 3:15 She is more precious than rubies; nothing you desire can compare with her.

Psalm 139: 13–14“You are the one who put me together inside my mother’s body, and I praise you because of the wonderful way you created me. Everything you do is marvelous! Of this, I have no doubt.”

He is with you always ❤

Fighting the “I am not good enough thoughts”

Fighting the “I am not good enough thoughts” is a battle between your mind and heart. When your heart and mind have been wounded by the lies people have spoken over you, you remain stuck. I will share with you how to break free from these lies…

There was a study done for two plants at a school to prove a point: The plant that was positively affirmed flourished, and the one that was spoken negatively to died.

I wonder if a part of our heart and mind shuts down when we have been beaten up with horrible words. I am not sure, but I do know that these words affect how we view ourselves and how we live our life. Words have power and I know this too well. I have seen how my words have brought people low, and also how they have brought them up. I used to have a friend in high school who struggled with depression, and when I took the time to call out all the good in her, she began to flourish and make positive choices. But I have also seen how my hurtful words have affected people, and how they keep bringing up in conversations what I said in the past.

When I think about the power words have, I think about the bible verse on Proverbs 18:21 “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.”

As a child, I lived through rejection of not feeling wanted because my dad wanted me to be aborted when he found out about me. Also, I went through sexual abuse at the age of 7 and after that, I was scared of the world. People had a hard time understanding me, and for that I always felt judged by them. As I got older, specially in high school, people began to speak horrible things to me such as “You are not enough”, and I began to believe this lie. I was living my life from a place of not feeling enough, and for that I would make poor choices, such as who I dated, and how insecurely I conducted myself.

Why did I let people determine my worth? Because I saw them as worthy, and I believed them. I wish I would not had given them power over me, but I did because I did not know any better.

When I came to have a relationship with God, I thought He also thought I wasn’t worthy because of my past mistakes (sins), but God isn’t like these people. He picked me up and called out the good in me. He began to reaffirm me in my identity and reminded me that I am enough, because he is my creator. That I am worthy because He died for me, and that I am loved because He is with me wherever I go.

I encourage you to let your battle be in prayer and in surrender. Allow God to be the authority in your life. Give Him the power to affirm you and begin to believe what He says about you….

Jeremiah 29:11  For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.